Stepping Beyond Reference Points

​Would you like your life to be different? Have you already begun the journey of transforming your life into something different? Are you feeling the growing pains of being different? ​

I remember times in my life that I chose to step outside of my box and actually follow what made me happy. I left people behind. We simply didn’t have a lot to talk about anymore and it was actually a relief to allow them to quietly melt from my life. It wasn’t always easy to embrace the change I was asking for. There were many times I felt like a boat without an oar. I also felt very alone sometimes. Those were the moments I would run back to the old ways of doing things- to the reference points of how I should look, act, and be with other people. It never felt good to go back other than it was familiar. Soon enough I was scrambling to get out of all the trauma drama that they were creating as their life as though that would prove what an amazing person they were to persevere through all of that! OMG!!! Yep, I did it too. I look back at that and wonder what the value of it was. 
I was listening to a friend this morning on a podcast. She was talking about something Gary Douglas (founder of Access Consciousness®) once explained to her. Gary described wallowing in other people’s (and our own) trauma drama as swimming in sewer water with all of our friends, family, co workers, neighbors, etc. When we start choosing something more for ourselves and not buying the judgements and definitions of ourselves, our lives start to change. We get happier and don’t require the daily dose of trauma drama. The water gets a little clearer with just a little murky, chunky crap floating around us. There are less people sharing the pool now, also. The more you keep choosing greater and the more of the judgements, trauma, drama you let go, the clearer the water in the pool becomes. One day you find yourself in this beautiful, crystalline pool surrounded by a verdancy of beauty and joy. Then you notice you are alone with all of this magic, choice, and possibility. So what do you do? You go back to the sewer to join all of the people you left behind because it is more comfortable even though it stinks to live like that again- especially when you know something far greater is available if you only choose it. 
What if.... you continued to choose more and to be happier? What if you could be the invitation to others that were able to hear you? Not everyone will hear you, nor will they ever choose anything different. It’s OK, Be in allowance for them to choose a different life than what you know is possible. However, for others you will be the guiding light of possibility beyond the sewer that they are desperate to break free of. Simply by being joyful, different you- someone else will get free. You don’t have to DO anything, just BE your brilliantly aware self. They will ask how you changed so much. You can share what you know with no point of view as to how they receive or use that information. It is just a choice to choose greater and more each day with total gratitude for every gift along the way.
The greatest gift I have given me is to melt the past reference points and definitions/ judgements of me. To allow myself the clean slate to be as different and magical as I have always known was possible is a freedom like none other. To be interesting point of view will all of the judgements, projections, expectations, separations, conclusions, and rejections people have of me when I don’t “fit in” to what they perceive as the “right or good” way to be. 
It is just a choice and the willingness to keep choosing greater and more for you. How many lives will be touched and improved by your choices of greater? ​​